A letter dedicated to men

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I mean lets be honest, there are so many good men out there who deserve appreciation, who deserve to be respected and valued as much as any woman does.

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Sometimes I would think to myself and wonder what men feel, and how much pressure might be on them in our societies today; they are expected to be good at everything, so much responsibility and to never complain and always be happy. Then I finally came across something that finally said so much of the words I have been feeling and wondering about for years. Here it is. Hope you find it inspiring as much as me and people around me have.

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This text was originally written by Dr. Mahboobe Rastakhiz in Farsi (I have translated it in English), a Psychology Lecturer at the University of Tehran.

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“Sometimes I think how painful it can it be to be a man.

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No body talk’s about men’s world,

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No body defends men’s rights,

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There are no special campaigns called “men…”

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Men have no symbols like the colour pink

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These days, everyone is holding a speaker, talking about the rights, pains and women’s worlds. While the rights, pains and the worlds of every women includes one of these men. One of these men that love us. They get nervous when they want to say something special. Even the men that loved us but left. One of these men that are always tired, those that started running since they were 18 and always had to stress about achieving things: military, job, salary, education…

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Everybody has expectations from men.They have to be educated, rich, well dressed, well mannered, strong and God forbid if they lack one of these things.

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And us women seem to be in a happy bubble of our own

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For example, we expect the man that is working from the morning till night, who is after more income and giving good life to his loved ones, to come and play the violin under our window after work and we expect the guy who plays the violin under our window to be a managing partner at some giant importing company.

We expect them to love us, support our life financially, be patient with us and calm us down, work well, always smell good, do their grooming regularly and eat our not so delicious dishes with all the excitement and passion in the world, come to parties that we like, like whoever we like, forget about their friends from before they were married, spoil us non stop when we are out in the society or with friends, not see any women more beautiful than us and not even smoke a single cigarette.

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Men have a sad and patient world:

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Lets come to accept that men are more patient than us. When they shout or when they pick up a fight with someone in the street, when their checks are not paid, when they don’t reply to our goodnight text messages, when they are sweaty, when their shoes aren’t clean, all these times they are tired and a little sad. And they still love us small, impatient and complaining creatures. They love us but still we always think:

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What if he doesn’t want me for myself, what if he only wants me for my beauty or the dimples on my cheeks?

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They love us, very simply and logically. The world of men is all this way, simple and logical. Exactly the opposite of our world.

Lets all stop this. Lets put outside our list of complaints. I think men, really men are not as bad as we show them to be.

Men want a woman whose loyal, who they can be peaceful next to. Thats it. Some peace in return for all the pressures and stresses that they handle to make us happy and prosperous. A little peace in response to the mansion we want from them. Despite this hectic life that men have, their definition of prosperity is very simple.

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“M” like a “Man”

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Your coach

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kiana x